The Baltimore Natural Hair Expo is coming up 2 weeks from today. I pretty much have everything ordered and ready, but here’s a sneak peek of what’s to come:
First of all I’d like to ask, who the hell made it ok for high top fades and gumby’s to come back? I swear I had to see a number of guys rocking those lately and it makes me wonder, who gave the bat signal that the latest trend should be the 1990s’ high fade with the lines on the side. Next thing you know, we’ll be seeing dudes with S-curls and a damn rat-tail in the back.
Sorry, I had to get that out. But while I’m in rant mode and on the subject, I gotta say I really hate lace fronts. Don’t get me wrong, I am a big fan of celebrating beauty in all shapes in forms, but really, these things should be made for cancer patients only. I don’t think most females know how to put those in properly anyway and you can see a flaky line of glue along the forehead. Hell a regular wig looks more realistic. Celebrities such as Tyra Banks and Beyoncé wear them all the time, but they also shell out thousands of dollars for quality hair and a stylist. Spring is around the corner and it’s starting to get warmer. We’ll be noticing a lot of hot and sexy styles, and some not-so-hot messes. So I have composed a list of Ins and Outs for the season.
In– Getting it in
If you haven’t been to the gym lately or walked a good mile or so around the block, now is the time to do so. By the summertime, you should see the results you want and hopefully be in that bikini you bought for yourself as motivation. If you’re not quite there yet, KEEP PUSHING!!! You’ll get there. You don’t have to look like this
Out– Waiting until the summertime to get right
We all make excuses – it’s too cold outside, got other commitments, you’ll do it another time. But really ask yourself why are you waiting until the summer when for one it’s gonna be hot as hell and two, this is supposed to be your time to flaunt it which means that it won’t be until maybe the fall until you see the results you want.
In – A flat stomach
I didn’t necessarily say washboard abs, but who wants a pudgy stomach? All it takes is to limit your sugar intake and stress and you’ll see the results you want. Not to mention, working all of your ab muscles and not just the top and obliques.
Out – Still losing that baby fat
If the last time you was pregnant was 5 years ago and you’re still trying to lose that ‘baby fat’, that’s not baby fat..that’s just fat, baby. Depending on your weight during pregnancy, the average woman at a healthy weight should gain at least 25 – 35 lbs*. If you’re overweight, at least 15 – 25 lbs. This comes from the following:
Baby – 6-9 lbs Placenta – 1 -2 lbs Amniotic fluid – 1-2 lbs Uterus – 2 lbs Blood Volume – 2 lbs Breast tissue – 1 -2 lbs Water retention – 4 – 5 lbs Fat Storage – 7 lbs
The rest is just extra weight you’re carrying around. More cushion for the pushing! But some of us(me) used this as an excuse to eat whatever we wanted and ended up gaining 50lbs and keeping 20lbs. Don’t do what I did and give into cravings of food you normally wouldn’t eat if you’re not pregnant such as greasy cheese steaks, mayo, and italian cold cuts. Opt for healthier fare and think about what your baby is eating. And remember that it takes at least 1 full year to lose all of your excess baby weight.
In – Clothes that fit
Just a couple of years ago, you were wearing a size 6 comfortably, now that 6 should be a 10. Still in denial huh? Think guys find that attractive? Not really. How about buying stuf that fits you for right now and use the fact that you don’t want to shop at the big and tall stores as motivation. While they do offer stylish and chic selections for the fashion forward, ask yourself if you’d rather be wearing your size 6 SEVEN jeans.
Out – Muffin tops, tight ass jeans, saggy pants, and other unsightly things
These are a straight up no-no yet you would find them on every block. And guys, if it’s getting warmer outside, there’s really no excuses for tight jeans. If I wanted to see your package, I’d ask you to text it to me so that I can post it on Facebook and show people that you really do have a little penis. No one, hell at least I sure as hell don’t, wanna see the crack of your ass everytime you bend over in tight pants(this goes especially for you ladies). Yes, you have a fat ass. And your ass, is fat. And wearing baggy pants around your ass simply means that you’re a wannabe thug bragging about how many ‘bitches’ you have while wearing a suspect chain. Even some of the ladies are doing this shit. Most of them I think happen to be lesbians and I, for one, do not care how anyone, gay or straight, expresses themselves in what they feel comfortable wearing. But ladies, seriously? If it’s bad that the men are doing it why in the hell are you? Pull em up, and put a belt on please.
In – Dressing for the occasion
Wearing your club clothes to church is mutually exclusive, meaning that they cannot be worn at the same damn time. So is wearing jeans to a lounge. It only takes about 30 minutes to pick out an outfit, put some makeup on, grab your bag and go. And warmer weather should not give you an excuse to dress like a hoochie. If it’s just a get together, unless you’re trying to snag a dude you’ve been feeling for a while, keep it casual.
Out – Wearing pajamas at the grocery store
Not sexy, Not cool, please get your nasty ass in the shower and put some damn clothes on before you leave the house. Next!
In – Naturals
This must be the Era of the Natural because you see so many natural styles popping up and people transitioning from relaxed to natural styles. While it is a wonderful thing to witness, there are countless YouTube videos that posts ways to keep your hair right and product recommendations for your hair type.
Out – Dry Hair
Ok for some of us natural girls like myself, we suffer from dry hair. My hair drinks up moisturizer like it’s water and for some reason, it doesn’t stay too soft without being oily. And please perform loc maintenance every 6 – 8 weeks. I will call myself out to say that sometimes I don’t always follow that golden rule, but growing a 2 inch afro under your locs makes you look like you don’t take care of your hair. Locs are supposed to be neat, thick, and well maintained.
In – Weaves that look like your own hair
I used to wear wigs a lot and for most people, they thought it was my own hair. Ok, not really, but It looked good enough to be my own hair. I’d prefer human hair because you can style it but there are some that come already styled that you can just wash and go.
Out – weaves that look like your own hair
If you don’t take care of your own hair, what the hell you think a weave is gonna do? The idea is not to neglect your hair once you get extensions, but to maintain it by keeping it clean and oiled.
In – Natural Coverage
Less is always more. I don’t wear much makeup these days because I work in a hardware store with too much sawdust and dirt for my taste, but some mascara, lip gloss and arched eyebrows go a long way.
Out – Makeup that looks clownish
Need I say more? We know you’re an artist and it definitely shows, But can you tone it down just a notch? Pretty please?
In – Wine tasting
If your idea of drinking fine spirits happen to fall under Grey Goose, Jack, Ciroc, and Henny, then you need to expand your horizons. There are a few wine tastings here in the state of Maryland but I’m pretty sure other states host them as well such as in Napa Valley California. There are also some wine tastings in local festivals and in the Alcohol and spirits shops. Check you local listings for events
Out – Moscato
I know I’m wrong for this, but moscato just screams single and lonely. Nothing wrong with being single, but why not take yourself or a friend to a wine tasting. There’s the variety, cheese samples, and you can feel like you’re living large and sophisticated hob-knobbing with the snobs. And best yet, they’re inexpensive.Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( None so far )
There are a number of hair blogs online as well as hundreds of products on the market for black hair. These products promise to make hair more manageable, less frizzy, and the hair blogs all teach those especially with natural hair, to love your hair, own it, and be proud of it. I will focus more on natural hair, since well, I’m a natural girl myself and natural hair blogs and hair companies just seem to be popping up out of nowhere. Let me just say that although my company does sell some haircare products, that is not the focus of our company. So for those who are looking for a complete haircare line and do’s and don’ts, this ain’t the place…. Now that’s settled so there are a number of natural hair blogs that teach people how to better manage their natural curls and locs and offer product reviews and their own recipes for success. They showcase some beautiful ladies with some rockin’ tresses. It’s quite a break from all the weaved styles that you would normally see in the mainstream even in publications like Essence, and Sophisticates Black Hair Magazine. Which brings me to say this..
It’s just hair.
When I was in school, I used to get teased for my hair all the time. I wore it relaxed, but I am one of those unfortunate ones with very little hair on one of my sides. So kids would call it a temple taper I got from the barber shop. I would wear my hair down in a pony tail at all times just to cover it up. When I was about 11, I got a bob cut with long layers in the front. At 12, I cut it shorter with just a regular bob cutting off at the ears. Sometimes I would part my hair in the middle and have a style that grungy white boys would have then. When I turned 13, I cut it even shorter to the style that the singer Monica had. I would gel it back during the summer and part it on the side on bad hair days. Then I read one of my mom’s books, “Good Hair, For Colored Girls when the Rainbow Got Rough” or something like that. It made me rethink about my own texture and how I wanted my long, healthy, nappy hair again. I missed my afro and that’s when the transition began. By 14, I was rocking the wet set, but the teasing ramped up to folks asking if I wore a wig. Yeah, it hurt and I wanted to cry almost everyday, but still, I wanted my fro dammit!!!. It got no better in high school until I finally said screw it and got a relaxer. I’ve had my hair fried, dyed and laid to the side then until I made the first big chop before going into the army. I kept a short afro throughout most of my military training before I got to my first duty assignment in Hawaii. I let it grow out and kept it braided up throughout the entire time I was there and wore wigs and braid extensions when I went out. So from then on, I haven’t had a relaxer in my hair for 10 years. Moral of this story, take care of your care and dare to be different…
But it’s just hair..
I am all for taking care of your hair. I am all for keeping it done and not looking a mess. But when we treat our hair as if we’re taking a pilgrimage to Mecca and act as if those who choose to add chemicals and weaves to their hair are slaves to the ‘creamy crack’, that’s when my bullshit meter goes off. Why is it that we have to make shit bigger than what it should be? Why can’t we as black women celebrate beauty in all forms? Talking about my hair journey alone, I know that if some other sistas went thru the same shit I went thru, they’d need therapy sessions to address why they don’t love themselves or their hair much. I do feel that in some of these blogs, there’s an unspoken snobbery that exists that can be a bit tribalistic at times. I know that it’s human nature to feel like you belong to something. I know that as black women, one of the things that we bond over is hair. I was reading an article in curly nikki where a woman who happens to wear her hair texturized or ‘texlaxed’ brought up the fact that the tone especially in articles and comments can leave her feeling left out and alienated because she and others like her choose to wear their hair chemically altered. Let me just say that by reading the comments, they’ve pretty much proved her point. There was lots of, ‘why would you come to complain on a natural hair blog??” and even,’she must be jealous because she wishes that she had natural hair”.
It’s just fucking hair!!!!!
I bring this issue up because hair snobbery is definitely real and it’s out there. I think that it’s worth it to explore the issue without bashing each other or one side trying to one up the other. I feel that all women can be beautiful with their own style, be it braids, afros, or relaxers. However, I’ve had the pleasure to see and meet sistas who had some jacked up as weaves, braids were pulled too tight to the point that they had a receding hairline, and their naturals were just dry and nappy. But these sistas thought they was doing it! And men don’t care as long as it’s styled. If a man doesn’t want to date you because you’re wearing a natural, maybe he prefers sistas in weaves. Maybe the braids are a little frizzy and might be a turnoff. Or maybe, jus maybe, he’s just not into you. Regardless of how you wear your hair.
I’ll probably get flamed for this real bad. Especially since I’m still a rookie in the blogging world. But that had to come out since exploring other blogs and I love being honest and open with people and even divulging some personal stories about me. This is not to bash natural blogs, I don’t have an inferiority complex, and I am certainly not a hater. I love going to natural blogs like afrobella and others to check out what’s new and view others opinions. At the end of the day, it’s just hair.Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 2 so far )
This would be a product review post. I’ve been looking for the right product for my dry hair that I’ve been wearing in locs now for about 2 years. It’s almost shoulder length, by can still swing it from side to side. So I noticed that Target started selling products geared toward natural hair. The really good stuf too, not the crap that’s usually in the “ethnic care” area. They sell Miss Jessie’s, which is always sold out everytime I come there, Jane Carter Solutions, Curlz, and Shea Moisture. I’ve heard nothing but good things about Miss Jessie’s, but I have to get her stuf on a really good pay day. So I got Shea Moisture dandruff and dry scalp elixir and Yucca and Baobab thickening mist. First off, this product smells like coconuts but there’s no coconut extract in it. This product is completely vegan with no artificial fragances, no parabens, virtually nothing bad. It has salicylic acid and tea tree to treat the dandruff and plantain enzymes and willow bark to alleviate itching and detoxify the scalp. I am one of the unfortunate few who suffers from scalp dermatitis so this stuf definitely helped. Not a lot because I still have dermatitis, but it did do it’s job of alleviating the itch and soreness that I’ve been suffering. The packaging of course is simple, yet my main beef is that the ingredients are hard to read and requires a magnifying glass(seriously) to read the very fine print on the label. My eyes haven’t given up on me yet, but I can only imagine someone older trying to read the label and trying to figure out what’s in the product. But my hair felt really soft and moisturized for DAYS even when the temps outside were over 90 degrees. Next is the thickening mist. Because of the dermatitis, my hair has now thinned a bit at the top. One wouldn’t tell now, but when I wash and touch up my hair, it’s noticeable, at least to my stylist. So the mist is more like an aloe spritz with African extracts of baobab in it to help strengthen and thicken hair. The jury is still out on this one because I haven’t felt much of a difference and I haven’t used much of it as I have the elixir. But both are great products to try and are inexpensive at $9.99 at Target. My hair doesn’t feel dry and brittle any more and is very soft and moisturized.
Grade: A+ Dry scalp Elixir B Thickening MistRead Full Post | Make a Comment ( 4 so far )